She uses her own money to buy herself iPhones, MacBooks, etc. It may sound strange to say now, if you haven't already had a relationship with a Chinese female before, but you are not Chinese unless you are of course, in which case you might as well skip this , getting her to clearly understand this, and accept what is reasonable for her to expect from you is just one of the re-framing points you will have to implement in your relationship with her at some stage.
Men are expected to possess substantial wealth in order for them to consider marriage and family. If your post does not show up, please message the mods. Have you had any experience dating a Chinese person? One of the most annoying things about females in Shanghai is that they believe they are smart and know 'more things' than anyone else while also being incredibly stupid to the point that you may wonder if you're talking to someone with carefully disguised downs syndrome. Chinese culture makes a huge deal about the concept of 'face', and, in truth, Chinese females are constantly comparing themselves to each other, and if all her friends and family don't think she is a girl with 'face', in view of her relationship with you, then that will become a serious issue in your relationship with her at some stage.