More likely than not, you've been benched. Say you experienced the slow fade from an ex, and then, months or years later, you notice they're liking your Instagram photos a lot, or commenting on your status updates, or—God forbid—adding you as a LinkedIn connection.
But for catch-and-releasers, there's often a fear of engulfment or codependence that causes them to run at the first sign you could really care about them. And giving them the time of day a second time is telling them you're OK with it. No matter how angry you are or how big the problem is, you must talk to your partner with respect. As soon as you voice these desires, your S. Just remember, if someone will do this to their current partner with you, they'd just as soon do it to you with someone else. Say you went on a date or two with someone months or years ago—or maybe you just met through friends and flirted, without ever taking things further—and a few months later, thanks to social media, you found out they were dating someone else.